There have probably been many occasions in your life where you have wanted to answer “No” to a question or suggestion, but there inside of you, something tells you to say “Yes” – and it has got to stop! There is absolutely nothing wrong with agreeing to something if you are doing it for the right reasons, and although sometimes you don’t want to let people down, you have to remember how important your feelings are.
By constantly saying “Yes” instead of “No”, you are actively and willingly putting other people’s feelings before your own and we get it, we really do. Going out of your way all the time for other people is nothing less than admirable, but when does it become too much? We know this can be daunting, but actually learning to be comfortable with saying “No” can be beneficial to your life.
“You need to be able to say “no” to a lot of GOOD things so you can say “yes” to a lot of GREAT things.”
The key to this is finding the middle ground where you can simply say no, without feeling any guilt or worry, while making sure the other person understands your reasons. The feeling of not wanting to say “No” comes from many different points, some of them are as follows –
You’re Worried About Missing Out
You Scared About Ruining A Relationship
You Feel Like You Are Being Rude
You Don’t Want To Feel Any Guilt
Now, work out which one resonates with you the most. Think about it. The next step is to learn how to say no without feeling any of the above feelings. Here’s how to be comfortable with the word “No” –
Understand That Honesty Is The Best Policy
Don’t Over Explain Yourself
Think Of “Because” As Your New Magic Word
Go forward and practice these techniques and remember, “be honest, be brief and offer a reason why.”