Relating To Royals
The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge’s children may be in line to the throne , but Kate and William have maintained that in their home there have to be certain rules and morals. Many began wondering if the royal family had been welcoming or disapproving of the disregard to traditional royal protocol…
Dysfunctional Family History
The Duke and Duchess’ decision to teach their children morals and values was not the same position the royal family had taken throughout history. In fact, Queen Victoria was quite the contrary to the present royals, and there were many recorded stories of neglecting her children. Despite having nine children, she wasn’t very maternal and was heard stating “An ugly baby is a very nasty object.” Queen Victoria chose to uphold her royal duties over the role of motherhood.
Adapting With Time
However, with modern times, the royals were forced to adapt and forgo traditional royal norms in favor of something the public would admire and respect. Although Prince Charles’ childhood displayed somewhat of a distant relationship with his parents, it was nothing like the strained relationships his ancestors had. Moreover, there were further developments between Prince Charles’ relationships with his two son’s, William and Harry, but the recognition for this adoration and respect went to another person.
It was well documented that Princess Diana was the person solely responsible for reforming modern royals and instilling values and love into her children. When Diana married Charles, it was evident from the outset that she was anything but a classic Princess who conformed to rules and regulations set by the higher powers within the royal family. Diana’s first big decision was to raise her boys herself, insisting on being a present figure in their day-to-day lives.
A Mother’s Love
Prince William and Harry both admired and appreciated Diana’s hands on approach and being present. Harry stated “My mother cherished the moments of privacy and being a mother, rather than the Princess of Wales.” Diana would often take the boys to the supermarket and to the movies in secret, giving them a real chance at normality instead of staying within the confines and strict rules of the palace. Prince Harry further admitted, “She smothered us with love.”
The New Royals
Prince William and Kate Middleton’s relationship began at University. William followed his mother’s footsteps in breaking away from royal convention, and followed his heart. He didn’t want to fall in love with a royal because of a title. They fell in love and were inseparable. After a short break they realized they were meant to be, and William proposed. The world was in awe.
A Royal Baby
Almost immediately after the incredible wedding, everyone was waiting for the day they would announce a royal pregnancy. When the royal baby announcement finally came in 2012, many were speculating on the type of parents Kate and William were going to be and whether they would take Diana’s approach to parenting for more stern and British stiff upper lip approach of Charles. Prince George was born on July 22nd 2013 at the St Mary’s Hospital in London, and the world couldn’t wait to get a glimpse of him.
Baby Number Two
Kate and William took to parenting immediately and acted as doting parents to their little Prince. Princess Charlotte was born two years later, and is just adorable. George recently started school and the world couldn’t wait to see William walking him to his first day. When they revealed in September 2017 that they were expecting their third child, everyone realized they were making up their own rules, would this cause controversy the way Diana did?
Middleton Family Life
William may have grown up in a royal family where traditions and expectations were entirely different to that of an average family, but through his mother and Kate, he was shown normality. He longed for this in his own family and when visiting the Middleton home he can see just how much love there is.
An Open Book
From her pregnancies, Kate admitted that she was suffering from an extreme, rare form of morning sickness called Hyperemesis gravidum, hoping to give other expecting mothers empathy and being as down to earth and approachable as possible. This was not the only glimpse the loving royal couple gave into their home life.
In 2016, Prince William spoke candidly to a talk show in Vietnam during a royal tour. He admitted about his transition into parenthood, “I’ve struggled at times.” He continued in explaining that “The alteration from being a single, independent man to going into marriage and then having children is life-changing.” In addition, William also had to juggle between being a father, a Prince and British Royal Air Force Pilot, which he later gave up to focus on his family and royal obligations.
Learning From Mistakes
Prince William, in particular, was said to be overly cautious with how he brings up his children and their expectations within the public eye due to certain circumstances in his own life. When Princess Diana tragically died in the infamous car crash in 1997, William and Harry were both expected to adopt a strong and resilient attitude towards their mother’s death, despite their young age. William admitted that the media was a catalyst in changing his attitude for protecting his own family.
Ups And Downs
While William expressed his concerns about being a parent, Kate also spoke out. She attended a mental health event in March 2017, explaining that on occasion she had felt a “lack of confidence” in parenting her children. The Duchess did state that “becoming a mother has been such a rewarding and wonderful experience,” but later admitted that “However, at times it has also been a huge challenge. Even for me, who has support at home that most mothers do not.”
A Real Perspective
Kate and William’s desire to give a real perspective to other new parents going through similar emotions has been welcomed by so many. In the past, the royals have developed a ‘stiff upper lip’ approach and viewed expressing emotion as something to be frowned upon. It is lovely that they want to change this and pave the way for parenting their kids in a special way.
Kate, William and Harry got together in 2017 to discuss mental health. The Prince admitted that he had sought counseling to cope with the death of his mother. Harry said that he was not given a chance to grieve as a young boy which severely affected him in later years.
Together they formed Heads Together charity. The organization aims to reduce the stigma surrounding mental health and implement young people to being open to discuss mental health issues. Kate and William strived to adopt this open-minded approach in the privacy of their home and with their children. They did not want their young children suffering in silence, something other royal family members had failed to do.
In April 2017, William told CALMzine, “Catherine and I are clear that we want both George and Charlotte to grow up feeling able to talk about their emotions and feelings.” He continued, “Over the past year we have visited a number of schools together where we have been amazed listening to children talk about some quite difficult subjects in a clear and emotionally articulate way, something most adults would struggle with.”
Hope For The Future
William is passionate about the cause. He went on to say “Seeing this has really given me hope things are changing and there is a generation coming up who find it normal to talk openly about emotions.” However, soon after their open comments, new information appeared about their parenting which made some question whether they were doing the right thing.
It was revealed that Kate and William had banned technology in their home including phones, iPads and computers. The royal couple did not want their children to have any access to the internet or anything that might impact their lives negatively. William and Kate both grew up without gadgets and wanted to emphasize the importance of being outside and playing sports, adopting mindfulness rather than surfing the internet. They want their imaginations to grow.
Advanced Prince And Princess
Many people questioned the royal couple’s decision to deprive their children of technology, it seems everyone has a say about something these days, but their choice was backed up by scientific research which encouraged other parents to do the same. In the study involving young children playing on iPads, a 29% increased risk of a speech delay was recorded for those who had a 30-minute increase in daily screen time. This, however, was not the only reason for Kate and William’s ban.
The increased use of internet and connectivity had also implemented an increase in online dangers with many hackers taking confidential information from users. Easily accessible content has made the internet unsafe, and especially for Prince George and Princess Charlotte, who are recognized worldwide. Kate and William are acting as responsible parents who care about their children’s privacy.
William spoke about how the lack of technology after Diana’s death allowed the young Princes to be alone, something that he is thankful for. He said “Back then, obviously, there were no smartphones or anything like that, so you couldn’t get your news, and thankfully at the time, to be honest, we had the privacy to mourn and collect our thoughts and to have that space away from everybody.”
The royal family are one of the most illustrious families in the world but they aren’t without their scandals. In history, the Royals were able to keep their secrets within the palace for the most part, but with the modern times, their transparency also had to adapt. In 2014, it was uncovered that British newspaper The News Of The World had hacked Kate Middleton’s, Prince William’s and Prince Harry’s phones more than 200 times, revealing intimate details about their private lives.
Practicing What They Preach
Studies have shown a clear correlation between depression and the use of social media. It has been said that overuse of the internet causes our brains to become overstimulated and therefore depressed or angry when we are unable to connect. In addition, looking at screens for too long can cause sleep disorders, mood swings and addiction. This is a big reason for the couple’s decision. We agree.
The Duke and Duchess are not the only famous parents who have prevented their children from getting sucked into gadgets and online connectivity. In 2014, it was reported that the late founder of Apple, Steve Jobs had encouraged his children to stay away from technology as much as they can. While many people were shocked that the creator of one of the biggest tech companies in the world would give that advice, he clearly knew exactly what he was talking about.
Kate and William can be commended for their commitment to balancing their private lives while also giving the public a glimpse into their royal family. As mentioned, Kate and William do not have social media accounts but they will sometimes allow the palace to post their family photos. The young royals understand their commitment to being approachable and balancing their lives with also letting the public in.
A Positive Outcome
The decision to remove technology from the household may seem rather outdated and overprotective, but it is actually a logical and practical one. Not only are George and Charlotte young children but they are also third and fourth in line to the throne, making them increasingly prominent and at risk of hacking. It would also give them too much access to fake news.
Bundle Of Joy
Now that Prince Louis has arrived, the royal couple are inspired more than ever to keep up their efforts in raising awareness about mental health.
William and Kate recently attended the first ever World Mental Health Summit in London, ahead of world mental health day. This is the first official joint engagement since the Duchess returned from maternity leave with a visit to the Sayers Croft Forest School last week. The summit has been described as “the next step in a journey to a new level of co-operation so that we can improve mental health around the world.”